A guide to wording for gifts and wishing wells

June 02 2023

We get it – conversations about gifts can be tricky. It was customary for guests at a wedding to gift the newlyweds with items they could use in their new home. Think: cotton sheets, vases, and crystal glasses! Times have changed though. Couples who already live together probably don’t need (or maybe just don’t want!) more housewares. Or perhaps they’d rather receive a gift of cash that can go towards their upcoming honeymoon or even a deposit for their new house. The reality is that wishing wells are becoming a lot more common now and it actually makes things easier for your guests too!




If you resonate with this, your dilemma now is most likely - how do you politely request guests to ditch the sheets and give cash instead? Here are some wishing well wording ideas that we’ve found popular amongst our couples:

“Though your presence is all we ask for, a wishing well box will be present on the day should you wish to honour us with a gift.”


“If you wish to bless us with a gift, we would greatly appreciate a contribution to our honeymoon.”


“If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way,
a gift of money towards our future would really make our day.
However, if you would prefer to purchase a gift,
feel free to surprise us in your own special way.”


“Your love, laughter and company at our wedding is all we need. However, if you wish to help us celebrate with a gift, a contribution towards our wishing well will be warmly received.”


“We've lived together for a while and have everything we need,
But an extra special honeymoon would be very good indeed.
If you'd like to give a wedding gift and you're looking for a clue,
A contribution to our wishing well would help make our dream trip come true.” 





Here are some more wording suggestions for couples requesting gifts from a registry:

“Your presence on our special day is the greatest gift of all. However, should you wish to honour us with a gift, we are registered at …”


“For those who wish to honour us with a gift, a list of suggestions has been registered with …”


“If choosing a gift is not your cup of tea,

You might like to try our gift registry.

Please feel no obligation to use this list,

As we do not mind if you give it a miss.

You can view it online at …”




For those couples who have decided they would not like to receive gifts, here are a couple examples of wording you can use. Remember that your guests will most likely feel uncomfortable showing up without a gift, so try to give a reason for your decision.

“Having you join us for our celebration in {insert location} is the only wedding gift we want or need. These precious memories will last a lifetime, so no gifts, please.”


“We are lucky enough to have everything we need,

So no gifts, please!

Simply bring yourself and your dancing shoes –

We can’t wait to party with you!”




Have a browse through our collections and please drop us a line here if you have any questions – we would love to help!